Hey there, I’m Tasha!
And for those of you who maybe don’t know, I founded The Edited in May of 2018.
Before founding The Edited, I was a blogger.
When I started my blog I was a business major who was completely stressed with school and working an understaffed retail job. Above all else, I was constantly getting sick, which later lead me to discover I had some pretty major allergies.
I needed some kind of outlet, which became my blog.
I started sharing different aspects of my life, but definitely edited them to only really show the highlights. Occasionally I’d open up about my stressors and anxieties, but for the most part, I kept it pretty positive.
I think this is something a lot of us do – I mean, why not, right?
When the rest of your life is a little crazy, it’s nice to have one area that’s a little more under control.
But even with showing these edited versions of my life online, I couldn’t help but get overwhelmed looking at other people’s lives online. Everybody seemed to have their shit together, and then there I was – a lot on my plate, and stressed about everything. And it was almost like the more I tried to show that I had it all together, the more I’d get stressed about not having it together at all.
And that’s where it hit me: if someone just glanced at my life online, they’d think I had it pretty put together too.
This brought me back to what my dad’s always said to me growing up. He’d say that everyone only shows you want they want you to see, and it isn’t until you spend a lot of time with someone that they really see who you are.
So by only showing people what we want them to see online, we’re able to edit our lives into whatever we want people to think it looks like.
Now, don’t get me wrong. I don’t think only showing parts of your life is a bad thing at all.
Think of it this way: you wouldn’t act the same way around the Queen as you around out with your college friends on a Friday night.
What I’ve had to work on, and what I encourage you to work on as well, is just simply acknowledge when you are editing your life, and realize other people are doing it as well.
So, yes, acknowledge these edited lives, and then love your true, authentic, not-edited self first (you know, the one that’s underneath all the filters). Because, let me tell you something, that version of you is the absolute best (pinky promise).