We all have those days when we’re just not feeling 100% ourselves. They’re the days when doubts start to trickle into our heads. And honestly, no matter who you are, those days are really, really tough.
Trying to remind yourself of all your accomplishments and beauty in your life while you’re in the thick of it is sometimes easier said than done. You are your own worst critic, which means that you’ll likely notice flaws about yourself that (literally) no one else would have noticed. You need to remember that you are you: a one-of-a-kind masterpiece with so much beauty for the world. And since bad days once in a while are (sadly) inevitable, we wanted to share a couple of things to help to remind you of your worth.
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5 Things to Remind Yourself if You’re Doubting Your Worth
Say kind things to yourself
Stop, pause, and take note of the thoughts that pop into your head – are they kind? Do you make jokes at your own expense? Are you putting yourself down? Whether you realize it or not, your thoughts are powerful and help to shape pretty much your entire world. Repeatedly saying not-so-nice things to yourself, regardless if it’s meant to be a joke or not, can have a huge impact on yourself. Our brains want to help, so it’ll take our thoughts and beliefs and file them away for us in our subconscious brain – the only thing is that it can’t really take a joke. If you’re constantly making jokes about being bad at math or having a bad memory, your brain will file that away as the truth. Pay attention to the types of things you’re telling yourself. Make sure they are uplifting and positive things. When you get into the habit of saying things to remind yourself of your worth regularly, you’ll have an easier time reminding yourself.
Take note of your thoughts
Have you ever found yourself taking on the concerns of others? Maybe you’re spending the afternoon with a friend who complained about money and bills the entire time, only to find yourself having similar fears creep into your brain? Our brains want to keep us safe and will search out any presumed threat to keep us safe. So even if you had a good budget that you feel comfortable with, hearing someone else voice their concerns about their finances may rub off onto you. When you’re feeling insecure or doubting your worth, take a second to check in with yourself to see if these thoughts even belong to you. Are they something your parents used to say? Do your coworkers complain about it regularly? If you determine that these thoughts don’t actually belong to you, pause for a moment and send your thoughts to who they belong to (well, figuratively). Consciously saying to yourself, “these concerns are not my own, so I’ll kindly send them back to ___” can sometimes make you more aware of what’s happening and help to remind you of your worth.
Remember that you don’t need to look(/act/be) like someone else to be worthy
Albert Einstein once said, “everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish on its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing it is stupid.” It’s easy to want to compare ourselves to others, especially on social media. Every day, we are constantly bombarded by highlight reel after highlight reel where we see the best of everyone’s lives. It’s basically like a little glimpse into the life of our friends, family, and strangers alike, but edited in a way that shows exactly what they want us to see. The thing we need to remember about that is that someone else’s success does not take away our own. Likewise, we don’t need to look like someone else, act like someone else, or be like someone else to be worthy. We are all unique, and that alone makes us worthy.
And that it’s okay to not know everything
Always strive for the best, never stop learning, but remember that you don’t need to know everything to be worthy. Sometimes we may feel overwhelmed by the feeling that we don’t know enough, or assume that if we’re good at something, everyone else is too. Often we’re so close to our own superpower (our own area of interest) that we fail to see how talented we really are. Imagine your best friend was an amazing cook: they were constantly trying out new ingredients and could whip up basically any dish without a recipe. But you heard them say, “it’s not that hard, anyone could do it. I’m not that great, I’m no Gordon Ramsay.” You would likely go on a 10-minute rant about how you don’t need to know every last thing in the culinary industry or have 35 restaurants to be good at cooking. Unless you’re a surgeon or someone who should probably know every last thing in your profession, there’s always going to be room for growth and that’s a beautiful thing. If you were to wait until you knew every last detail of your industry to feel worthy, you’d likely be waiting for a lifetime, and that’s just not fair to you.
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You have unique gifts that no one else has
You have your own likes and dislikes, interests and hobbies for a reason. Think about it this way, if everyone on earth wanted to be a nurse, we’d be in a serious world of hurt. Everyone would be fighting for a limited number of jobs, meanwhile, there would be no one around to work in basically any other career path. Okay, so that might be a dramatic example, but you get the point. Your interests are unique to you, which helps to shape the world around us. If you’re interested in hiking, you’ll likely have unique gifts that go along with that: you’ll know what sorts of shoes work best for you, the clothing you prefer, and the best trails around. If you’re into makeup, you’ll likely have unique gifts that go along with that: you’ll know the job of each makeup brush or how colours blend together perfectly. Your gifts are unique to you, and that alone makes you worthy.
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